Sunday, December 26, 2010
My First Issue
My first issue in finding soul balance was recognizing my limits and learning to say "no". I felt like saying "no" was being unloving to people I love. Then I realized that I have a limited amount of time and energy, which I have to reserve for what is most important in my life. (Honestly, I had to read a whole book in order to really grasp this concept.) We can't be everything for everybody. We can only be what we are supposed to be.
"No, for most of us, is an almost impossible word. It triggers a crisis of guilt and conscience - we'll disappoint our friends, we'll miss out, we'll not get promoted, others will think us weak, we'll be accused of selfishness. But whatever else it is, "no" is a simple mathematical concept. We are allowed by God to commit our "yes" up to twenty-four hours a day. After that, we must say no." - excerpt from In Search of Balance by Richard A. Swenson, MD